In my first post on top tips for parenting a child with challenging behaviours, I suggested that you:
Seek support and be compassionate with yourself and that you work as a team with whoever you have to support you.
If I had read that when my children were young, I would have dismissed it straight away as ‘pie in the sky’ thinking and had as much chance of working as pigs have of flying.
Seek support? Huh! I was hundreds and sometimes thousands of miles from any family and my husband was convinced that it was my parenting that was to blame for our son’s endless crying and demands. What else could it be? He would leave the house early in the morning and I would be breastfeeding in my dressing gown after an almost sleepless night. He would arrive back in the evening and I would be breastfeeding in my dressing gown after an almost ‘achieved nothing’ day. ‘You’re feeding him/pandering to him too much’ was his conclusion. Needless to say this little bundle, well actually this rather large 11 pounder, had quite an effect on our marriage.